Finding a way forward

There are many reasons to seek counselling, from relationship challenges to questions of meaning and purpose. “Counselling is not about giving advice or opinions, nor is it a friendly chat with a friend. The therapist helps the client to understand themselves better and find their own solutions to resolve or cope with their situation” (BACP).

Expat expertise

Running the Turning Point International Counselling centre in Stockholm gave me a unique set of skills regarding the issues and the joys of the expat experience. Issues that I came across daily in my client work, but also met in my own life and in the lives of my international colleagues.

I understand the way a new environment can trigger old wounds, the challenges and joys of a bicultural relationship, raising children in a multicultural setting, and issues of long distance bereavements and family concerns. I was asked to write about this in Your Living City where I contributed a series of articles on expat issues, and answered readers’ questions.

Counselling & Coaching

In weekly sessions or in the course of a retreat you can really get to the bottom with an issue that has been bothering you.

We can agree to meet as little or as often as you like, to explore where you are getting stuck. Sometimes this is about learning to accept the limitations of life, while at other times it is the art of breaking free from self imposed limitations.  Slowly but surely you will develop an insight into the cause of the things that hold you back, while building new skills to help give your life new meaning.

You can also take advantage of doing this during an intensive three-day retreat, away from the interference of the outside world, to focus fully on the discoveries that we make in our sessions together.

Interested in a first free meeting?

You can use our first free half hour session to explain what brought you to seek counselling and what you hope you might gain from it. I will listen and reflect back on the issues that I think you might want to tackle. Contact me here. 

If it feels right for you we can then book a first full session, where we will explore your concerns further and make a plan of action.

This is what others have said about our work together. 

My approach to therapy

One of my trainers used to say; “we are wounded in relationship, and so too are we healed in relationship”. I believe that counselling, quite simply, is a process whereby one person offers their respectful presence and attention to the other, acting both as a mirror and as a translator of possible unconscious messages and demands. I don’t have the answers, but I am skilled in helping you find your own answers, by rediscovering your inner compass.

At the heart of every meeting is my active and attentive listening. You tell your story, I listen, I mirror, summarise, draw together some threads into a bigger picture, and may sometimes give you a gentle challenge. I’m not the kind of therapist who just nods and says hmm all the time.

Your story is the one that takes centre stage, and you don’t have to take responsibility for me, my feelings, or my thoughts. For some people this is almost the most challenging part, to be given such a starring role in their own life narrative, with no one trying to steal the limelight.

I am genuinely interested in the things that give your life meaning. And a lot of my professional development in the later years centred around existential issues. I believe that every life crisis, every sense of discomfort, or even pain, is an opportunity for healing and greater self love.

And no, I don’t see therapy as a self indulgent process of navel gazing, mud slinging, or ego tripping. In fact, I truly believe that only an emotionally balanced and healthy human being can be of service to the world around them.

Time for an upgrade?

Some people think that it is a sign of weakness to seek help. It actually takes great courage to reach out, and it is also a smart move. Think of all the devices we have. We don’t think twice about upgrading them if they no longer suit their purpose. But when our tried and trusted coping mechanisms no longer serve, we think we’re stuck with the ‘way we are’.

The psyche is not only wise, it has a deep capacity for change, wanting nothing more than to return you to the default setting you were born with, the inner compass that can guide you magnificently through life.

Although counselling is rightfully seen as one of the ‘talking therapies’, I have other tools in my therapeutic toolbox, such as creative drawing, journaling and mindfulness exercises.

I look forward to hearing your story!

Book a first session or find out when the studio is available.

Phone: 06 36 39 88 97 // Email: san@zensan.nl
Sizoo Coaching & Counselling, Vreelandseweg 70d, 1394BN Nederhorst den Berg.
NB: Please make a prior appointment