Finding a way forward

There are many reasons to seek counselling, from relationship challenges to questions of meaning and purpose. “Counselling is not about giving advice or opinions, nor is it a friendly chat with a friend. The therapist helps the client to understand themselves better and find their own solutions to resolve or cope with their situation” (BACP).

Expat expertise

As founder of the Turning Point International Counselling centre I gained a unique set of skills regarding the challenges and the joys of working and living abroad.  Cross cultural challenges can pop up everywhere; at work, in your relationship, in the way you raise your children. In my experience you can truly optimise the process of meeting these challenges in a trusting, intelligent and accepting relationship with an experienced counsellor.

At a deeper level, I have seen how a new environment can trigger old wounds, unfinished business, or self-aspects that ‘knew their place’ in your own culture but seem to jump to the fore as your new working and living environment mirrors back a different version of your ‘self’. This can be confusing and confounding but also offers fertile soil for integrating more aspects of yourself and letting go of outdated modes of being.

The there are the ups and downs of a bicultural relationship, raising children in a multicultural setting,  long distance bereavements and family concerns. I have written extensively about these issues for Your Living City Stockholm. These articles, and more, can be found on my creative platform Healthy Neurotics.

How does it work?

You book a first half hour introductory session for free. That’s a good start! Together we will explore in which way you feel therapy might be of benefit to you and what you expect from me.

You can also join me in my weekly open chat on zoom. Just click on the link and I will be there on your screen every Wednesday at 19:00 Amsterdam time.

Following on from that first meeting we can decide together of a 2-hour ‘NUTCRACKER’ session would suffice, or whether you want to explore your concerns in a more ongoing traditional counselling relationship.

In that case we would meet for WEEKLY (or biweekly) SESSION, preferably at a fixed time, so this becomes your special slot for exploring the issues that will ultimately enrich your foreign experience. Of course there is room for flexibility but I have found that making the self-loving effort to set aside this special hour for yourself is as much a healing factor as the therapy itself.

We will explore where you are getting stuck. Sometimes this is about learning to accept the limitations of life, while at other times it is the art of breaking free from self imposed limitations.  Slowly but surely you will develop an insight into the cause of the things that hold you back, while building new skills to help give your life new meaning.

The third option is to book an all-inclusive RETREAT. You can then take advantage of focusing on your own needs uniquely by booking an intensive three-day retreat, staying on the houseboat and having all your meals provided for. Creating an environment away from the interference and responsibilities of the outside world, to focus fully on the discoveries that we make in our sessions together.

I look forward to meeting you

If any of the above options feel right for you we can then book a first meeting where we will explore your concerns together and make a plan of action. Contact me here. 

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My approach to therapy

One of my trainers used to say; “we are wounded in relationship, and so too are we healed in relationship”. I believe that counselling, quite simply, is a process whereby one person offers their respectful presence and attention to the other, acting both as a mirror and as a translator of possible unconscious messages and demands. I don’t have the answers, but I am skilled in helping you find your own answers, by rediscovering your inner compass.

At the heart of every meeting is my active and attentive listening. You tell your story, I listen, I mirror, summarise, draw together some threads into a bigger picture, and may sometimes give you a gentle challenge. I’m not the kind of therapist who just nods and says hmm all the time.

Your story is the one that takes centre stage, and you don’t have to take responsibility for me, my feelings, or my thoughts. For some people this is almost the most challenging part, to be given such a starring role in their own life narrative, with no one trying to steal the limelight.

I am genuinely interested in the things that give your life meaning. And a lot of my professional development in the later years centred around existential issues. I believe that every life crisis, every sense of discomfort, or even pain, is an opportunity for healing and greater self love.

And no, I don’t see therapy as a self indulgent process of navel gazing, mud slinging, or ego tripping. In fact, I truly believe that only an emotionally balanced and healthy human being can be of service to the world around them.

Time for an upgrade?

Some people think that it is a sign of weakness to seek help. It actually takes great courage to reach out, and it is also a smart move. Think of all the devices we have. We don’t think twice about upgrading them if they no longer suit their purpose. But when our tried and trusted coping mechanisms no longer serve, we think we’re stuck with the ‘way we are’.

The psyche is not only wise, it has a deep capacity for change, wanting nothing more than to return you to the default setting you were born with, the inner compass that can guide you magnificently through life.

Although counselling is rightfully seen as one of the ‘talking therapies’, I have other tools in my therapeutic toolbox, such as creative drawing, journaling and mindfulness exercises.

I look forward to hearing your story!

Book a first session or find out when the studio is available.

Phone: 06 36 39 88 97 // Email: san@zensan.nl
Sizoo Coaching & Counselling, Vreelandseweg 70d, 1394BN Nederhorst den Berg.
NB: Please make a prior appointment